Every
time you give in to the situations you lose some part of your core, your inner
self and after enough time has passed you are no longer the same upright person
you once were the world, the mediocre people have manipulated you into
something you never wanted to become consciously.
Before
attempting to understand the above statement tell me something do you even know
what you really are? What’s your personality made of, what your basic patterns
of behavior are? What you show to people and what covet the most? If not, then
you are unaware of the most important person that you possibly know and that is
yourself (for those who didn’t get it).
Generally
categorizing there is personal self and there is a social self. Personal self
includes all those predispositions and beliefs that an individual holds about
himself/herself on the other hand there’s social self, which is the attributes
or aspects of our personality that are influenced by the people surrounding us
and the interpersonal relations that we have. Here’s when living gets complicated,
coz not every influence is good neither every influence is for your benefit.
And since you don’t even know and care about yourself, what you want, and what
are your best interests nobody else gives a tinkers damn. The world is full of
people who are insecure and have several complexes and when these people meet
your dim witted self they hit a jackpot coz now they can have the satisfaction
of bringing you down to their level and in the process gain some pleasure out
of it.
When
you give in to the situations created by these people or even when you try to
change these people, little parts of your soul chip away and the more you given
in the more you realize that the people,
the situation, the game which you once tried to change has changed you.
Now,
what can you do to save yourself?
It’s
simple, look inward for answers and by that I mean instead of seeking
validation from outside try to grow as a person(Spiritually and Professionally),
set a goal(both long term and short term) and work towards it and don’t listen
to someone who has no goal and is just existing and one day would just seize to
exist. Read a book instead and mind you the book shouldn’t be a pulp fiction
because the role of a good literature is not to take you into the slumber and make
you all drowsy and give you a goodnight's sleep but it is to compel you to think.
As
my good friend says take some time for your own growth and be consistent with
it start with fifteen minutes but in any case don’t drop the routine.
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