Don't Blame the Crabs

 

I’m sure you’ve heard about the behavior of crabs in a basket. If not, let me tell you when crabs are caught they’re placed in a basket without a lid you know why? Because they never escape.

The moment one of them tries to move out, the other one pulls him down. Now like any behavior, this has two meanings a literal one and a figurative one. Literal being that crabs are nasty they pull each other. The figurative being that everyone around you is not necessarily your ally as a matter of fact they might be working against you.

But since we don’t blame crabs for their behavior we shouldn’t blame such people either, I don’t and would encourage you to do the same. You should understand that they’re blind and insecure people pushing and prodding you, using every ounce of their funny little brains to get some satisfaction in pulling you down.

But the person you SHOULD blame is yourself, why you let these morons drag you down? why do you even identify with them? Just because you’re studying in the same school, living in the same locality or working in the same office that doesn’t mean you have the same level of knowledge, Intelligence, dreams or skillset like the rest.

But how do we identify such people or crabs because they are smooth in their approach, they’ll tell you the things which you wanna hear, they’ll get you into activities that are fun for the moment but counterproductive. What you can do to call their bullshit is, take some time and analyze your self-worth try and refocus your thinking to what it was before you met these people if it was just the same then congratulations you’re amongst fellow crabs, but if it was any different (better) than what it is now, run your ass off from that gathering. If you have dreams which are bigger than meaningless gossips and non-productive meetings then do something about it, don’t let those fools who’ve never dreamt and achieved something talk you out of your dreams (pull you back into the same basket). And if at some point you realize that you are not cut for the hustle then you can go back to them and trust me when I say this, they’ll still be there pulling someone down coz that’s what they do and WE don’t blame them.

 

 

 

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Hypnosis: the myth, the truth and some irrelevant information

Hypnosis is a very fascinating term and much of the credit goes to the horror movies and crime fantasies in which we’ve seen people doing strange things, things opposite to their basic nature like killing someone or forgetting all the information regarding some event.

I can just say that it’s all loads of crap and call it a day but that would not satisfy the curiosity that if it’s not what’s portrayed then what is it?

To be precise nobody is conclusive enough as to what happens in the state of hypnosis, is it a state of trance? or just a deep relaxation mode or is it a dreamlike state? but what we can say conclusively that it’s a state of suggestibility and that state is slowly attained by the cooperation of both the client and the therapist.

We’ve all seen it somewhere that the hypnotherapist says that focus on the circle, (square or unicorn) that obnoxious moving thing and then he/she says “now your eyelids are getting heavy”. Well of course they are getting heavy because of you focusing on a complex visual stimulus, but what has happened in between is that you’ve accepted his suggestion to look at the object, breathe slowly and then your eyelids get heavy of natural reasons.

So we can say that hypnosis is a heightened state of suggestibility wherein you follow some of the suggestions, get relaxed and then other suggestions follow.

But to follow or not to follow entirely depends on the person, ON YOU. That means you’ll not commit any criminal activity if you don’t intend to you’ll not even forget an event. So what about the people in the club that do weird things, they’re staged or intoxicated or both, Hypnotherapy is just like any other therapy used.

Though there are some problems associated with it just like there are limitations with any therapy. One of its major limitation is that if the person gets open to suggestions some memories get fabricated as well. But the hypnotherapists counter it with the argument that memories get constructed because the person wants that either consciously or unconsciously.

I would conclude this with a definition for you to brood upon given by Erickson he defined it “ as an artificially enhanced state of suggestibility resembling sleep wherein there appears to be a normal, time limited and stimulus limit dissociation of conscious and subconscious elements of the psyche”

 

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Meaningful Suffering....

 

We’re all haunted by what lies in our past, no matter how much we try to mask it behind our poised expressions but the truth is some part of us still lives in fear and misery, now here I’ll not claim that I would provide you a hack which will make all your pain go away but what I offer instead is an operational procedure which is better than living in the past and destroying yourself because of a person, incident, squares or circles that which has happened once and you with your constructive memory and active imagination are reliving it again and again.

What I want you to do is take some time and consciously think of the mental suffering which you are putting yourself into and once you realize that, I want you to decide that whether this suffering of yours has any meaning or not and trust me when I say this that deep down you’d know the truth if you ask yourself, if the answer is yes the suffering has some meaning and is helping you grow in any manner please continue but if that’s not the case and that suffering of yours has no meaning then it’s time to leave that “self” behind and strive to be a better version of yourself. And instead of having the negativity from the past, practice gratitude in present and gradually you’ll learn to appreciate the unique arrangement of finite events that which is just like music and we happen to call it life.